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A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari is a 53 year old woman who lives in Ontario, Canada. She is an author, speaker, life coach and strategist. She has been described by many as an insightful and astute student of life’s ups and downs, she is not, for the record, a mental health professional. A.J. writes all that she writes from her own life experience. Therefore she asks that you keep that in mind as you read her writing – her Ebooks or listen to her Audio Programs or work with her as a Life Coach and Strategist
I am a sexual abuse survivor. I recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder 15 years ago. I am an adult living with Asperger’s Syndrome (“high functioning”). I feel so blessed to have had the journey that I have had so far. A journey that has at its center learning psychosocial skills later in life, and in my recovery from BPD, that have helped me to travel along the path of emotional and self mastery in my life.
My journey has been, at times, painful and challenging, and can still sometimes be complex, and in many ways complicated, and yet, always has been and still is, oh so rewarding. It is my hope that you will find inspiration and whatever else you may be here reading for that will enable you to unlock that soul force inside of you that you may still be living somewhat disconnected from. Integrating with that soul force, with your authentic self is what makes the difference between pain and suffering. I say this because the beauty of life and all its challenges lies within the paradox of pain and joy. In life, there is no perfection. If we are open to joy we must also be open to pain. Without pain we could not know joy and visa versa.
Life is an unfolding journey. Being present to the moment is often the challenge. It is worth it to meet that challenge. Each moment will offer to us what it is that we need in that moment. Life is not about perfection. We are all a mix of our strengths and weaknesses. We all have vulnerability. The difference between mental health or lack thereof is, more often than not, a matter of degrees. A matter of being out of balance and of not living in the paradox of the dialectic that is your here and now moment, one moment at a time.
My life has unfolded for me through and from all of my pain, all of my losses, the abandonment, the rejection, the abuse, and more importantly the journey to self-acceptance and peace of Emotional Mastery that has lead me to discover and give meaning to an on-going journey of transformation that yields peace, promise, passion and purpose within the richness of the experience of all that is ever-unfolding and paradoxical in my life,
All that I have learned in my life and all that I apply from those lessons to all that I write about and to my life coaching comes from a desire to pay-foward the blessings of my journey in helping others in their life and healing journeys.
I still live with the paradox of difference when it comes to having Asperger’s Syndrome. (not to be confused at all with BPD – they are not one in the same at all) It is just my nature, however, to be very introspective about what that really means in my life and to, of course, push myself to the edge of my limits so that I can continue to gain more insight – to know more and understand more. Aperger’s Syndrome continues to be, like BPD was, such a teacher of incredible awareness to me in my life. Awareness that has and continues to help me live a healthier and happier life.
I have learned, the hard way, that challenges and differences are really blessings and gifts. When we choose to be open to them through an attitude of gratitude that stems from an awareness that so much in life is what it is because it comes to teach us what each one of us, on our own individual journey, need to know more about to continue to grow and be more fully authentic. There is such a profound promise, passion, and purpose to my life, to your life, and it is up to each one of us to cultivate and nurture that within self.
As you will realize, if you don’t already know this about me, I love to write. I also very much feel that I have a responsibility to pay-forward the incredible blessings that all of the challenges of my experience so far have taught me and given me an interesting amount of insight about. As I continue to get older (of course) I continue to be humbled by all that I have learned and am still learning. As a student of life, I have a rich amount of hard-fought-for life-lessons from which to share much with many.
A.J. Mahari is a Proven Expert on BPD
A.J. Mahari has been recovered from BPD for 15 years. She knows how to help others get on and stay on the road to recovery as well. Do you want to learn more about how you can live your best life right now? A.J.’s BPD coaching can offer you support and assistance, in the here and now, in identifying and maintaining coping strategies to achieve personal goals and moving forward.
A.J. is Very Experienced On Both Sides of BPD
When it comes to BPD, A.J. Mahari has the unique voice of someone who not only had BPD and recovered 15 years ago, but also of someone who was the adult-child of 2 borderline parents, and subsequent to her recovery from BPD had a relationship with someone with BPD/NPD. Mahari not only knows, first hand, what it feels like and is like to have BPD, to explain that to family members and loved ones. Mahari also knows what it is like to be a family member, loved one, and relationship partner of someone with BPD. Mahari understands what that feels like too. Mahari knows what recovery, on each side of BPD means, is, looks and feels like, and requires. It is from her 360-degree unique experience with BPD on both sides, and her recovery on both sides of BPD, that Mahari’s work generally, and her Life Coaching, even more specifically, that she can and does offer you a more in depth and insightful understanding and compassionate brand of practical help unlike any other life coach, coaching in this area.
Unlike other life coaches who bring experience either from coaching courses, or one side or the other of BPD, A.J. Mahari, with her rich life experience has found that the best coaching course she could have ever invested in turned out to be her own journey thus far in life.
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