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A.J.’s Main Message to Loved Ones of BPD
Author of 20 Ebooks, author and narrator of 30+ Audio Programs Life Coach and BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari gives a synopsis of her main message to loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder who are in significant other relationships.
“My main message to loved ones in significant other relationships with those with BPD is two-fold. You cannot rescue or bring about change in your loved one. You cannot “fix” them. Secondly, if your BPD partner is not taking personality responsibility, does not follow up on promises and commitments made, isn’t getting help, isn’t working to find and create change in his or her own life, nothing in the relational dynamic can really change for the better in any long-term or healthy consistent way.
Loved ones, especially, but not limited to those in significant other relationships with people with BPD, need to know that there comes a time when further focusing on the person with BPD in your life in what becomes an “over-focusing” will keep you stuck and is not helpful to anyone.
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- Inside The Borderline Mind
- The Shame of Abandonment In BPD
- Breaking Free of The Borderline Maze – Recovery For Nons
- Facing the Facts of BPD – On The Other Side For Nons
- Overcoming Denial About BPD and Love
Audio Programs © A.J. Mahari
© A.J. Mahari, July 2, 2010 – All rights reserved.
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Great video even thought it is a tough thing to hear for sure. I learn so much from you. I am grateful. I have a long way to go but I am finding ways to understand more and that really does help. This is a painful thing to have to hear and I can understand why someone might say it is depressing or not be ready to hear it. But I can’t tell you enough how much listening to your message in this video has helped me. Thanks again.
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